COM 250 / Week 7 Discussion: Authenticity in Close Relationships: My Story
Authentic communication is very
important in close relationships. Have
you ever experienced inauthentic communication behavior in your close
relationships? What can we do to ensure that our interaction with close others
are authentic?
Yes, I myself have encountered inauthentic communication behavior in close relationships on more than one occasion. The few times this has occurred in relationships I've had, is because the other person is a chronic liar. Lying about everything and never having the same story twice. I do not think the only thing people can do to ensure that we are authentic is just to be honest about things with people. Don't get me wrong, I know everyone tells little white lies, but when the lying or misinforming happens more often than not is when people become inauthentic. I believe it is best to just believe that there is a risk that someone is not being themselves 100% and that is a risk we all take in the relationships we choose to put ourselves into.
Authentic communication is crucial for the survival of a close relationship. Typical close relationships are built on trust and openness in communicating. However, it can get "complicated" when a close individual in our life wants to "protect" themselves or their significant other from "bad" news. I have experienced this behavior with my recently engaged girlfriend. She had some bad news that she believed I would not like to hear so she decided not to share it with me. Later, I discovered that this bad new was a new dent in my pickup. Needless to say, I was not happy about the dent and was also hurt that she did not share the problem with me. Being positive, open, and truthful are a few ways that we can keep communication authentic. If she had been open with me from the beginning, we could have dealt with the issue together. Instead, she stressed about it and felt terrible for not telling me.
I am 48 yrs old and I have experienced a few relationships where there has been inauthentic communication behavior and honestly it was based on lie's and deception.The close relationships that I assumed were honest was not and come to find out the relationship was a sham and it was very hurtful and dishonest. I have always been an open and honest straight forward person and I feel like I deserve the same respect from another, especially in a close relationship. Lie's, deceit, and dishonesty is something that I really frown upon when I am in a relationship with another. Being straight forward and telling the truth with out holding back anything is part of healthy communication in a relationship. I have been in a relationship where my other half has withheld news from me because he thought it would be hurtful to me. But what was really hurtful to me was not knowing and finding out later from another person. I even have a hard time having friendships that are based on dishonesty or tall tales and lie's, I really need to have trust and honesty and healthy communication in any sort of relationship and or friendship that I have. The relationship I have with my husband is very authentic and healthy and based on open communication. We are best friends as well as husband and wife we hold nothing back from one another and have all the trust in the world with one another. I would never think to hold something back from my husband because I thought it would protect him or keep him from getting hurt. Having authentic communication between others is a sign of mutual respect with one another and nothing is worse than being in a relationship that is based on inauthentic communication and lie's or beating around the bush. There isn't any trust in a relationship like that and it is not something that is a part of my belief system.
Yes, I myself have encountered inauthentic communication behavior in close relationships on more than one occasion. The few times this has occurred in relationships I've had, is because the other person is a chronic liar. Lying about everything and never having the same story twice. I do not think the only thing people can do to ensure that we are authentic is just to be honest about things with people. Don't get me wrong, I know everyone tells little white lies, but when the lying or misinforming happens more often than not is when people become inauthentic. I believe it is best to just believe that there is a risk that someone is not being themselves 100% and that is a risk we all take in the relationships we choose to put ourselves into.
ReplyDeleteAuthentic communication is crucial for the survival of a close relationship. Typical close relationships are built on trust and openness in communicating. However, it can get "complicated" when a close individual in our life wants to "protect" themselves or their significant other from "bad" news. I have experienced this behavior with my recently engaged girlfriend. She had some bad news that she believed I would not like to hear so she decided not to share it with me. Later, I discovered that this bad new was a new dent in my pickup. Needless to say, I was not happy about the dent and was also hurt that she did not share the problem with me. Being positive, open, and truthful are a few ways that we can keep communication authentic. If she had been open with me from the beginning, we could have dealt with the issue together. Instead, she stressed about it and felt terrible for not telling me.
ReplyDeleteI am 48 yrs old and I have experienced a few relationships where there has been inauthentic communication behavior and honestly it was based on lie's and deception.The close relationships that I assumed were honest was not and come to find out the relationship was a sham and it was very hurtful and dishonest. I have always been an open and honest straight forward person and I feel like I deserve the same respect from another, especially in a close relationship. Lie's, deceit, and dishonesty is something that I really frown upon when I am in a relationship with another. Being straight forward and telling the truth with out holding back anything is part of healthy communication in a relationship. I have been in a relationship where my other half has withheld news from me because he thought it would be hurtful to me. But what was really hurtful to me was not knowing and finding out later from another person. I even have a hard time having friendships that are based on dishonesty or tall tales and lie's, I really need to have trust and honesty and healthy communication in any sort of relationship and or friendship that I have. The relationship I have with my husband is very authentic and healthy and based on open communication. We are best friends as well as husband and wife we hold nothing back from one another and have all the trust in the world with one another. I would never think to hold something back from my husband because I thought it would protect him or keep him from getting hurt. Having authentic communication between others is a sign of mutual respect with one another and nothing is worse than being in a relationship that is based on inauthentic communication and lie's or beating around the bush. There isn't any trust in a relationship like that and it is not something that is a part of my belief system.
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